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'Who is wise...among you? Let them show it by...wisdom.' James 3:13 NIV

In the first seven seconds people often decide whether they want to hear what you have to say or not.

In How to Talk So People Listen, communication expert Sonya Hamlin says that of hearing and seeing, sight is the more important and powerful sense. She writes: 'We remember 85 to 90 per cent of what we see, but less than 15 per cent of what we hear. Countless numbers of people have lost sales opportunities, ruined job interviews, or been turned down for dates because their appearance didn't match someone else's expectations. If you're wise you'll ask your family and friends if you're inclined to display nonverbal cues that capture their attention and take the focus off what you're trying to communicate.' One pastor says: 'I never realised how many nonverbal mistakes I was making until I saw myself on video. Now it's my regular practice to go back and watch myself to determine not only what I said, but also how I said it. The tape doesn't lie.'

Great actors can tell a story without saying a word, simply by using facial expressions. And whether you are aware of it or not, you convey a message by the expression on your face. Even people who pride themselves on 'playing with a poker face', and on their ability to not let other people know what they're really thinking, convey an unspoken message of detachment. And that makes meaningful connection with other people well-nigh impossible. If your face is going to 'talk' - and it is - make sure you're communicating the right thing.

Soulfood: Ex 20:14 Prov 6:23-35 Matt 5:27-30 1 Cor 6:9-20,

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'Let your light...shine before men.' Matthew 5:16 NKJV

Jesus said, 'Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in Heaven' (Matthew 5:16 NKJV). When you're in darkness, you see the light before you see the carrier of the light, right? The old saying, 'First impressions are lasting impressions,' is true.

One communications expert says: 'You've got just seven seconds to make the right first impression. As soon as you make your entrance, you broadcast verbal and nonverbal signals that determine how others see you. In business those crucial first seven seconds can decide whether you win that new account, or succeed in a tense negotiation. Are you confident? Comfortable? Sincere? Glad to be there? In that first seven seconds, you shower your audience with subtle "clues". And whether people realise it or not, they respond immediately to your facial expressions, gestures, stance, and energy. They react to your voice - the tone and pitch. Audiences, whether one or one hundred, instinctively size up your motives and attitudes.'

Whether you're speaking, selling, interviewing or dating, your appearance, attitude and approach make all the difference. People can tell a lot in seven seconds. They may decide they don't want to hear anything you have to say, or they may be struck by how much they're drawn to you. Henry Ward Beecher said: 'There are persons so radiant, so genial, so kind, so pleasure-bearing, that you instinctively feel in their presence that they do you good, whose coming into a room is like bringing a shining lamp there.'

Soulfood: Heb 5-8 Mt 15:1-14 Ps 149 Pro 4:25-27,

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Dealing with depression



'Your words...were my joy and my heart's delight.' Jeremiah 15:16 NIV

People in Bible times dealt with depression too. Elijah said, 'I have had enough, Lord...Take my life' (1 Kings 19:4 NIV). Job said, 'I loathe my very life' (Job 10:1 NIV). David wrote, 'My soul is downcast' (Psalm 42:6 NIV).

Now, when you're clinically depressed you should seek professional help. But the kind of depression we're talking about here is when your motivation is drained, your desire to pursue God is gone, your conversations have turned sour, you're blind to your blessings, your enthusiasm is forced, and you're in a daze regarding the future. Here are some possible causes: (1) Sin. Sin is like a stone in your shoe; you'll have no peace until you get it out. No holiday, job change, relationship change or doctor will heal it. But the blood of Jesus will cleanse it (see 1 John 1:7). (2) Greed. King Ahab's obsession with owning Naboth's vineyard made him miserable and affected his entire family (see 1 Kings 21:4). (3) Comparisons. Constantly comparing yourself to others will depress you (see 2 Corinthians 10:12). (4) Speaking negatively. 'The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences' (Proverbs 18:21 NLT). (5) Fatigue. Jesus called his disciples aside to rest. Why? Because he recognised that when fatigue walks in, faith walks out (see Mark 6:31). (6) Unforgiveness. When you refuse to forgive someone, you carry them like an albatross around your neck.

So, what's the remedy for depression? Often it starts with prayer and Bible reading. Jeremiah, who battled depression, wrote, 'When your words came, I ate them; they were my joy and my heart's delight' (Jeremiah 15:16 NIV).

Soulfood: Heb 1-4 Mt 14:22-36 Ps 145:14-21 Pro 4:23-24,

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