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Husbands and wives 3

'All your males are to appear before the Lord.' Exodus 34:23 NAS

God said, 'Three times a year all your males are to appear before the Lord...For I will drive out nations before you...enlarge your borders, and no man shall covet your land' (Exodus 34:23-24 NAS). Three times a year the men of Israel were to go on a spiritual retreat and seek God's guidance. And God promised to protect their families and their possessions while they were gone, and even to 'enlarge [their] borders' (Exodus 34:24 NAS).

So if you're a husband who wants God to protect your family and bless your endeavours, you must take the time to submit your thoughts, actions and decisions to his leadership. You'll never function successfully as the head of your family until you're under the headship of Christ. The best thing you can do in leading your home and building a great marriage is to ask the question, 'What is the mind of Christ in this matter?' (see 1 Corinthians 2:16). And then follow it. Once you've done that, you'll have your wife's full attention and cooperation. Why? Because she's no longer arguing with you and your opinions. Now you've brought Christ and his Word into the equation. It may take time for your wife to trust your leadership and respect your thinking, but as she sees you walk with God and practice his principles, she'll come to trust you and feel secure.

When a woman says to her husband, 'I need you to hold me,' she's not necessarily talking about physical intimacy. She's talking about her God-given need for security. She needs a husband she can love and trust. And God can make you such a husband.

Soulfood: Neh 1-4, Mark 11:27-33, Ps 78:32-39, Prov 23:29-35


Husbands and wives 2

'Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman.' 1 Corinthians 11:3 NAS

Paul writes, 'I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of the woman, and God is the head of Christ' (1 Corinthians 11:3 NAS). There is an order to how God operates. Just as Christ was submitted to God, husbands are supposed to be submitted to Christ, and wives are supposed to be submitted to godly husbands. Note the words, 'the man is the head of the woman' - not all women. This arrangement doesn't apply in the workplace or in other relationships.When we fail to honour God's structure, Satan can enter our homes just as he entered the first home in Eden. 'Submission' is an unpopular word today. But when we understand it from a biblical perspective, we see that it's a positive force to accomplish good, not a negative force to subject women to an inferior status. The Greek word for submission, hupotasso, means to willingly place oneself under the authority of another. It doesn't involve coercion, but rather a willingness to take who and what God made you, and submit it to the authority of another. In the husband's case, to God, and in the wife's case, to God and to her husband.Paul writes, 'Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her' (Ephesians 5:25 NIV). When a husband loves his wife that way, and gives himself to her, she will gladly submit to his leadership in the home. It's her husband's love and protection that releases her into the fullness of her God-given potential.

Soulfood: Dan 6:1-24, Acts 12:1-19


Husbands and wives 1

'She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate.' Genesis 3:6 NKJV

In Genesis, before Eve was created God warned Adam not to eat the forbidden fruit, and it was his responsibility to communicate that to his wife. Clearly, he didn't do a very good job. As a result he lost his job and they ended up losing their home.

Notice, the devil first approached Eve with the idea of disobeying God. 'When the woman saw that the tree was good...She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate' (Genesis 3:6 NKJV). Question: Where was Adam when Eve was being deceived? 'With her.' So here's an important lesson: When a man fails to listen to God and obey Him, he can't be the leader his wife and family need. he literally opens the door to Satan and allows him to come in and cause chaos in the family. When Satan was trying to sell Eve a bill of goods, Adam stood silently by instead of speaking up and saying, 'That's not right. Unless we follow the path God has laid out for us, we'll lose everything.'

On of the issues in marriage isn't about who's the boss; it's about honouring the structure God created so everyone in the family can walk in his blessing. The Bible says Satan comes to 'steal, kill and destroy' (John 10:10). But when a husband is truly submitted to Christ, he can protect his family. So if you're a husband, you need to step up to the plate. And if you're a wife, you need to encourage your husband to walk with God and let him know that it's an honour and privilege to follow such a man.

Soulfood: Col 3-4 + Philem, Mark 11:12-26, Ps 78:17-31, rov 23:26-28

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